Coping by Crafting: How Making Helps Us Get Through Tough Times

Coping by Crafting: How Making Helps Us Get Through Tough Times
© Melanie Berg

Melanie Berg has been blessed with what she describes as an easy life. She has a wonderful family and a rewarding career. But just over a year ago, like so many before her, Melanie was diagnosed with breast cancer.

Life throws challenges at all of us, and we each develop ways of coping. But it’s striking how many makers say their craft helped them cope with the most difficult periods of their lives. The evidence for this isn’t just anecdotal. People like Betsan Corkhill, the founder of Stitchlinks, have been investigating the therapeutic benefits of crafting in collaboration with academics and clinicians for decades. These are the stories of five incredible women and how they got through some of the toughest periods of their lives.

Melanie, who is better known to many as Mairlynd, first learned to knit when she was six or seven years old, but it didn’t really stick. After a brief second bout of knitting as a teenager (she made a scarf for a friend and he never put it on) she finally returned to the craft when she had her first child, 13 years ago. “All of a sudden I had this little human being and I just wanted to create something with my hands to keep her warm and safe,” Melanie explains, a feeling she says many mothers who knit have in common.

The design for Melanie Berg’s “Into the Magic Forest” baby blanket was inspired by the modern fairy tale Labyrinth. © Melanie Berg

From then she was hooked. She discovered Ravlery and started playing with patterns, often making tweaks to the designs she found online until she was making so many tweaks she realised she might as well design her own garments. For the past 10 years she has been designing incredible knitwear, including Loop favourites like On the Spice Market, Under the Milky Way, and Wintermute.

When Melanie first received her diagnosis, she didn’t share it very widely. She went silent on her Instagram page as she went through weeks of coming to terms with the illness on her own. But that changed once she had come through her first surgery. “I started to talk about it on social media and the support was really overwhelming. I felt blessed and very thankful. But at the same time I felt so sorry for all the women who don’t have that kind of support.” This inspired Melanie to share her own story, as openly and honestly as she can, to give some hope to women who are going through breast cancer, and the one in eight women who will experience breast cancer at some point in her life.

Melanie’s heartfelt and open sharing of her experience throughout treatment for cancer has been an inspiration to thousands.

Knitting also proved to be an important element of her treatment. Not only was it a source of comfort and distraction, but also played an important role combating neuropathy, the nasty chemo side-effect of tingling or numbness in the hands and feet, which can be permanent. The cooling gloves and boots used to minimise this effect can be very uncomfortable, and knitting helps bring circulation back to the hands once they’re removed. Melanie also said she always used to look forward to slipping into handknit socks when the treatment was over. These were lovingly supplied by her sister and a close friend, both of whom love knitting socks (they’re not Melanie’s favourite thing to make).

But more than anything, Melanie says her ability to keep a foot in the knitting world—and in the world of work—was the most important thing her craft gave her during treatment. “You are in the cancer universe when you get the diagnosis,” she says, “everything is just circling around your diagnosis, and I was just so happy to have parts of my life that did not do that. Working part-time or quarter-time was super helpful, both because it was knitting, which is good for your mind and your body, but also mentally because I didn’t feel useless.”

Once Melanie started feeling better, she designed two sweaters that reflect her journey with cancer. The first, Peach Fuzz, celebrates her completion of chemotherapy, her return to strength, and the return of her lovely hair, which she was so happy to see even if it did resemble the titular ‘peach fuzz’. The second, Pink Is for Power, is a bright pink sweater with a motif on the front that is reminiscent of the pink breast cancer awareness ribbon. It was designed to pass along the message of strength to anyone dealing with a cancer diagnosis, and came out of a close collaboration with her friend Susanne Grashoff of Wool of Fame, who created a custom colour for the sweater. Susanne is an old friend of Melanie’s. Although she has emigrated to Mallorca, she spent much of Melanie’s treatment travelling to her native Germany to spend time with her mother, who wasn’t well. Because of these trips, she was able to visit Melanie regularly, and the two schemed up the sweater together. Now, it’s a wonderful celebration of friendship and strength to all who knit it.

Marieke MacMahon and Monica Almaraz on Cancer, Craft, Hope, and Purpose

Melanie is not the only person who has turned to knitting in the face of a cancer diagnosis. Marieke MacMahon, mother-in-law to Loop founder Susan’s son, found knitting was one of the only activities that she could still do during chemo. She describes a type of anhedonia that is sadly common among cancer patients. “I felt very ill and fatigued and found no joy in my usual routine. On the bad days it was as if I was suffering from a severe hangover and flu.” Like Melanie, Marieke says knitting gave her a sense of purpose when there was little she could do. “Though I couldn’t work, cook, read, watch television, listen to the radio, or socialise, I felt I was making something and I had something to show for my illness. I was productive.” Marieke spent hours and hours knitting complicated yoke sweaters, patterned hats, and socks for family and friends. They took her mind away from the illness. “Knitting is a solitary process, and so is illness. You are alone with both and retreat into yourself with both, and from that you find strength from inside.” But she doesn’t experience this solitude as lonely. In fact, she finds it a source of hope. It is a “simple repetitive activity that helps the mind to rest and your inner self to just be. And that, in turn, restores hope. I don’t mean hope in relation to the future, but in relation to the present. Knitting really helped me to appreciate the beauty of that.”

Monica Almaraz in her element at Loop!

Loopette Monica Almaraz also sought solace in her knitting needles after her cancer diagnosis during the worst of London’s Covid lockdowns in autumn 2020. “It came as a huge shock although I knew subconsciously something was not quite right,” she explains. Knitting saw her through the immense uncertainty that followed. “Knitting kept me steady and focused on processing everything that was happening while my world was crashing around me. Knitting kept my hands from shaking.” Heading into surgery alone due to even more Covid restrictions, Monica armed herself with a pair of socks to knit and a crocheted blanket and prayer cloth her mother had made for her the previous year as a source comfort. As she recovered from surgery and learned she would need chemotherapy as well, Monica kept knitting. In fact, she knit nine pairs of socks by Christmas, enough for all her loved ones to get a pair. She also knit through chemo, working through a mustard yellow shawl that brought a little sunshine to each of her visits to Charing Cross Hospital. Monica’s journey with cancer isn’t over yet. “While thankfully I’m cancer free, I’m still being tested and looked after every few months for the next four years. ‘Scanxiety’ is a real thing but I’m learning to live with it when it comes around. And I still always take my knitting.”

Marta Rudolph Self-Soothed One Stitch at a Time

Facing a divorce in 2009, Marta Rudolph started knitting washcloths

It’s not just cancer that knitting can help with. In 2009, Marta Rudolph was facing the dissolution of a 38-year marriage. Unsure of how to cope, she drew inspiration from her grandmother. During the second world war, with both of her sons fighting on the front lines, Marta’s grandmother began knitting gauze bandages to be used in leper colonies. Having a task, a purpose, and a repetitive motion to get lost in kept her mind occupied. Bandage technology has moved on a bit since then, so Marta learned to knit, seeking the same respite her grandmother had found so many decades earlier.

Marta chose to knit washcloths. Similarly practical to the bandages her grandmother knit and achievable in scale, the project fit the bill. The design she chose—a square cloth knit from one corner to the other in garter stitch with increases and decreases along each edge—was challenging enough to hold her attention while also being repetitive enough to create a meditative rhythm. Marta was searching for something to soothe her mind and her heart in a difficult time and knitting was the perfect balm. More than a decade later, Marta is still knitting the same style of washcloth and the homes of most of her close friends are well stocked with her lovely creations.

Anna Beckett Crafted Her Way Through Covid Lockdowns

Anna Beckett has been a crafter for as long as she can remember (as her Instagram handle @annamakeseverything will attest). She first learned to knit as a child, but like so many of us, she put the craft aside for most of her adolescence. Then, in her early 20s, Anna found her way back to it. “At first it was frustrating and difficult,” she says of coming back to the craft, “but soon I realised it was allowing my brain to switch off completely.” Soon she was knitting and crocheting on a regular basis, making hats for herself, toys for friends’ children, and granny squares galore.

Crafting really came to Anna’s rescue during the Covid lockdowns. Living alone, she found the solitude incredibly difficult. “I’m quite a social person, and all of a sudden I had all this time where I just had to be by myself,” she explains. She threw herself into craft. She even crocheted a doll in her own image for a work self-portrait challenge. Soon, crafting became not just a way to pass the time, but a real creative outlet during the otherwise unstimulating days of London’s many lockdowns.

When we were all allowed to go outside again, Anna broke out of lockdown in style with her friend Jayne Edwards. Both keen cyclists, together they cycled from London to Durham to visit Anna’s family. And that’s where the tables turned on all of Anna’s years of making gifts for friends: Her aunt knitted gold medal ribbons for the pair to celebrate their 350-mile journey.

Anna and Jayne and their well-earned medals

What has crafting helped you get through? Whether an illness or another difficulty, the crafting community and craft itself is a source of comfort for so many, and we want to hear your stories.

If you’re interested in learning more about the therapeutic benefits of knitting in the face of all of life’s challenges, we encourage you to check out Stitchlinks, where you can read the latest research, learn more about how knitting can be beneficial in all kinds of settings, and even start your own therapeutic activity group.

If you are able, we encourage you to donate to some incredible charities doing wonderful work with people who are affected by cancer.

MacMillan Cancer Support – an organisation that supports people experiencing cancer with all the different ways cancer affects a life.

Sew Solid Crew – a voluntary organisation that donates everything they sew, including scrubs, masks, and gowns for the NHS, food banks, refugee centres, and more. Donate via Just Giving

Macmillan Trust – providing emotional, practical, physical, and financial support to people who have cancer at every stage of their cancer experience.

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Take good care of yourselves xx

9 Comments on “Coping by Crafting: How Making Helps Us Get Through Tough Times

  1. I’ve been travelling from London to Folkestone and Ashford most days since my Dad went into hospital. I’m knitting a complicated pair of lace and cable mittens. All thoughts of my sadness and self-pity are put in perspective when I realise I’ve ruined a yo or turned left instead of right. Seen usually 4 rows after being done. Isn’t making wonderful?

  2. Wonderfully written piece that resonates with me having had the worst year to go through. I lost my 2 siblings and my brother in law within 12 weeks earlier this year. My world turned upside down as I took on planning funerals, writing eulogies and taking care of my niece who found herself without any parents and has special needs. My mum was devastated and needed support too. Throughout this whole period, in some kind of parallel universe my stitching and knitting kept me grounded and brought comfort. Although it’s been snatched moments in the early morning or late at night I’ve held on to those times and been so thankful that I am able to use my hands to create and draw joy from the beauty of my work. Sending love and joy to all who are suffering at the moment

  3. I lost my house after a traumatic divorce, all my worldly possessions were put into storage whilst I moved into a caravan on a beautiful piece of land amongst trees beside a lake. Damp, without water, electricity or shower, life became about mere survival. Re-discovering knitting from 45 years before I found I now had time, which I’d craved so much in my younger years with two babies. Knitting and the radio became my (simpler) world, and whilst I started by making things to keep me warm, I soon realised that my creativity had been stifled most of my life, and a sense of order calmed my feelings in my chaotic life. Making a practical, beautiful and nourishing garment out of nothing more than lengths of wool is truly a miracle. If I had room to keep the sheep and alpacas, I would! I can’t say that knitting saved me (I know know
    I’m a survivor), but it certainly made my life feel whole and complete, when I have so little.

  4. I enjoyed reading the stories if these ladies. My life with working with my hands has always been a lifeline for me through many difficult situations. Sewing knitting baking are my trifecta.
    My husband passed away in early 2020 and for a year I knit squares and learned colour work. Suddenly my desire to knit just stopped, completely. A bump I thought, but it will pass. Over a year has passed and I have just recently found a simple doll pattern which I knit to completion. That accomplishment was thrilling and now working on another. It is still very slow going but I am hoping that the relaxation and joy will return, in the meantime I hav my Hippie doll to keep me company

  5. I am 77 years of age and have been knitting since I was 5. That summer my cousin who was 7 came to stay and one rainy afternoon she taught me to knit. My mother was a great knitter so once I had learnt the basics she taught me so much! Over the years so many different projects – 4ply mini skirts with matching jumpers in the sixties, crochet trouser suits in the seventies and big mohair jumpers of the eighties. Life moves on and in 2021 I’m diagnosed with breast cancer. Recovered well from the operation but then chemo! First round I had to be admitted to hospital with neutrophils sepsis. Then day before second round I had a fall and broke my wrist. Now as any crafter tells you not being able to do the things you love hurts, but the wonderful doctors at Whipps Cross hospital operated and my wrist is functioning well and two weeks after the operation I was back knitting. I took knitting with me to chemo and radio therapy and knitted two pairs of socks just in the waiting room. Like Melanie I have been given the all clear with regular check ups and still find I get lots of ideas for knitting patterns just popping into my head and I am so happy to still be able to knit them.

  6. I too used crafting to focus my mind and hands on something creative and positive following a breast cancer diagnosis. Before beginning chemotherapy treatment I made myself a series of embroidery kits. These were my own designs and based on female characters in Gothic folk tales. I loved that I could escape and lose myself in the repetitive nature of the stitches; this became for me a kind of meditative activity. The kits were small and fitted easily into my bag – perfect for those hospital appointments!
    If I were lucky enough to be able to attend the Knitting & Stitching Show, I would take my daughter, who gave me so much support through my illness and who has recently taught herself to knit! I have also returned to knitting after many decades and we are both excited to discover new yarns and patterns to occupy us both through the coming chilly nights!

  7. As for so many others, COVID has been a very difficult and isolating experience for me. First I was very sick in March 2020, then I lost my beloved job in the travel industry, and for 2 years due to travel restrictions I could not visit my elderly parents who live in another country. During all that turmoil, knitting became a refuge, providing me with a soothing, calm experience I desperately needed. Creating beautiful, cozy items I sent to family and friends made me feel connected to them and let me think about a brighter future. Also, my twin girls were home with us, having to do their first year of university remotely by taking classes over Zoom. After all that screen time, they welcomed my attempts to teach them how to knit and soon they too enjoyed all the wonderful benefits knitting provides. They have lovely hats and scarves to show for it, and proudly wear them now on campus. In this way knitting has united us, both across distances and generations, and will continue to be a source of joy to all of us!

  8. Very inspiring. I knit my way through the winter after my husband died. It was the only thing I could concentrate on.

  9. I’ve reached for my pins for solace when feeling anxious and lost. My two big adult knitting phases followed the deaths of my parents. The first came after the death of my father. It was 2008 and I discovered Loop, my local wool shop, then in Cross Street. As I tried to come to terms with losing my dad I thought a lot about his mother who was a nifty knitter and crafty crocheter. I was in Loop so much that Susan even offered me a job at Loop. It was a brilliant time and I met and learned some incredible knitters who were then Loop staffers – designers Claire Montgomery of Monty Knits and Linda Marveng but I cdn’t cope with being front of house helping customers in my anxious state then so soon went back to a day job subbing for a newspaper where I didn’t need to speak too much and could hide behind a computer screen.
    My frenzied knitting in the year after my father’s death subsided and I became just an occasional knitter until this year. My mother, a brilliant knitter, died in January after a long battle with dementia. It had been years since she’d been well enough to knit as dementia stripped away her memory and faculties painfully slowly. In the end. after five years of being too frail to cope alone and living in a care home, she contracted Covid just after Christmas. In the numb days, weeks then even months after her death I found knitting helped me focus. Any time I felt too fluttered to concentrate I would pick up my latest project and work a few rows.

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